Stories of the single life In Saudi Arabia

Chapter 1

Stories of the single life In Saudi Arabia,

I bet you were expecting a story of the single life from a man’s view? So many say that Saudi Arabia is a man’s world country, but this is Autumn’s story; my story of my views and struggles, and achievements, an obstacles I still have yet to face…

People will see me and think wow she’s so lucky to be living in Saudi Arabia, Alhumdullilah I feel blessed to be able to be living in one of the most difficult countries to get into but keep in mind the process to getting to come here was not the easiest, worth it? Yes, would I do it again? Yes in a heartbeat! As most know that who’ve been following me well as most know I’m a divorced American woman with 3 children, no my children don’t stay with me at the moment they live with their father and his wife; Did I want it to be this way? No! But financially I couldn’t provide for them on my own let alone having no one to stay with them at home while I worked so their father and I agreed that they’d stay with him in the meantime.

What are some of the biggest achievements I've reached so far? well with the help of a few good friends (KHALID and SALEH) I have successfully changed my iqama status, I'm now no longer under anyone's sponsorship but my own, how you're asking? well my kids are Saudi and their father is Saudi  so I now have permanent residency status and basically be treated as a Saudi, I've been living on my own for almost a year now so I guess that's an achievement within its-self, women will be driving here soon (WOOHOO)!!!! will I be driving after Ramadan? not exactly!! i'll probably be waiting for a good 6 months to a year until they can fix any problems with the traffic laws etc, Do I have a car in mind that I want? YESS!!! No its not a Mercedes or BMW I just want an Hyundai Azera preferably in a dark blue color with a bumper sticker that says (Queen) 😉 

DipNdip with my kids (sorry I don't share kids pictures publicly)

What do I do in the time since I’m single? Really not much I guess I’m kind of boring really I tend to hang out with friends from time to time all though my friends call me anti-social I mean I can be but sometimes I just tend to be alone but I do hang out with friends I really enjoy going to public events and interacting with the locals. I spend a lot of time at the mall for some strange reason being at the mall relaxes me seeing happy people make me happy, or I like to spend my time at the corniche (sea) and feed the stray cats and mostly and most importantly I spend time with my children every time I can but these days I haven’t been able to see them much because of financial issues.

Art drawings near the Khobar Corniche sea front.

Since my move to my new home things are nice I enjoy living alone it does get lonely at times but hey at least I can walk around naked and be sloppy from time to time and not have to feel bad about it in the end I’m cleaning up after myself.  I did however adopt 2 kittens their bit crazy at times but as my habibi said to me they give the home life or they bring life into the home (something like that, anyways you get it) lol.  Many are wondering is there a new person in my life? And the answer is yes those who’ve been following me for a while already know lol! Will there be a wedding in my future? To be honest I really wish so! But here’s the possibility in it not happening and why! Firstly he’s not Saudi (SURPRISE) he’s Yemeni but he was also born and raised here as much as we’d both love to get married with the changing in Saudi Arabia with the Saudization and the increase of iqama fees unfortunately it doesn’t seem to be possible or in the meantime it doesn’t seem like it will happen but I have hope and praying that something will happen and we can be together but if not In the end I guess I will be marrying a Saudi or stay single but for now he has my heart and my attention.

My furbabies big grey is Queen Bella small fry is Princess Zara

In the beginning of last year I had started working with a Hospital supplies company that I really enjoyed working with but with some circumstances I felt the need to leave and search for another job, I think in that moment I wasn’t thinking clearly I just wanted to leave without thinking things through first and without listening to what my manager had said to me he said to me ( go to them stay for a couple weeks if you don’t like it come back this is your home) boy do I wish I would had taken his advice, because the company I had joined after words was is the worst company I’ve worked with well I guess I can’t blame the company but the poor management, the company had decided to let me go due to financial problems and due to those financial problems I haven’t received 2 ½ salaries so here I am in the month of Ramadan with 150sar to my name alhumdullilah I have enough food in my home but even that is going quickly.  

To be honest even though the company I worked for let me go it was actually a sigh of relief at the same time I’m struggling to find my next work place before I have to pay my next rent payment in July!  Insha’allah I’ll find something but alhumdullilah I do have a pretty good support system even though I’m a very shy person when it comes to asking for help, I don’t like to ask really I feel ashamed and most times I have to fight with the ones closed to me to accept their help.

Overall I knew that living the single life would have its timing and challenging moments and well I’ve reached the top of my ride of the roller coaster and I’m waiting to see where it’s going to lead to. Will I stay in Dammam, will I move to a different city for work, will I end up moving to a different apartment because I can’t afford the payments of the one I’m in now I don’t know even though I’m quiet calm about my situation I have at least 3 close friends that I trust deeply to tell my deepest struggles and personal issues so (MAJDA,HASSAN,ABDULLAH) without these three I’d be completely lost  without them and I’m sure I will come out of this hard time just fine I’ve gotten through much darker situations and I’m confident that I’ll make it out okay..

Where there is darkness in your life surely there is light at the end of your dark road keep going until you find that light -Autumnbreeze83-

Just because someone is living the life that they wanted doesn’t mean that it came easy or are having it easy every success has its struggles, losses before things become smooth in the end really if it’s really what you want nothing and no one can stop you from getting to where you want to be.