Sunday, March 26, 2017

Saudi Arabia the country of peace






When most people hear the name Saudi Arabia they would probably automatically connect it to terrorism and as some of you read the title of this blog you're probably thinking Saudi Arabia and peaceful country shouldn't even be in the same sentence, do you ever sit and ask yourself why? is it because what the media has told you or maybe you have a friend who already has ill feelings perhaps they were raised to hate something that they don't know much about, I know I'm guilty of that and I know many others are also, I too once thought Saudi Arabia was bad and the people scared me I didn't like them even though I never met a Saudi person  but why was I hating them? * I have written about my fear of Saudi Arabia in another blog if you care to read it please check it out (http://loveforksa.blogspot.com/2012/10/why-saudi-arabia.html)... 


So now back to the main topic *Saudi Arabia the country of peace! what does Saudi Arabia think about terrorism and how exactly do they and why don't they do anything to speak out against it?? and is it safe for westerners to travel here let alone work here!?

I know many people are thinking how ironic for a blog like this to come out especially with the current attacks in London and now the and now the news making it a huge deal because the apparent terrorist visited Saudi Arabia a few times, please know just because you visit a country it doesn't turn you into a terrorist and to be honest that is what pushed me to write this blog to try to teach and educate the people who have been fed the lies of the media listen to those who've lived here everyone has a different experience and majority have a positive experience living here!!!

First off Saudi Arabia does not support terrorism let alone allow it to happen here! if someone is caught being suspected of terrorism this is a serious crime and is not taken lightly if you're involved with any terrorist groups or linked to any attacks you're punished by execution which means the person is beheaded! lethal? yes but effective! this link talks about the execution of 47 terrorist convicts (http://www.arabnews.com/featured/news/859176 ). Saudi Arabia is a Muslim country Muslims from all over the globe come to Saudi Arabia to visit Makkah and Medina to pray, to ask for forgiveness to ask for better health an for a better and safe world to live in etc. because this is what Islam teaches anyone who commits an attack by killing an innocent person or themselves doesn't represent Islam, Islam is perfect people are not! 

So what does Islam say about killing innocent people? 

"The Holy Qur’an says, “Whosoever killeth a human being for other than manslaughter or corruption in the earth, it shall be as though he had killed all of mankind, and whoso saveth the life of one, it shall be as if he had saved the life of all mankind.” (Al-Mai’dah 5:32).


“The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) has strongly prohibited killing of innocent people. One of the Hadiths says, “Whoever killed “Muaahadan” (a term used in Islamic state to refer to non-Muslim citizens), will not smell Paradise. And its scent can be smelled from a distance of 40 years (a term in Arabic means “far distance”).” (Narrated by Al-Nasaie)

There are many other Hadiths that urge Muslims not to kill others.

Before engaging in a battle, the Prophet Muhammad  used to instruct his soldiers:
• “Do not kill any child, any woman, or any elderly or sick person, or Unarmed  or the one who surrenders .” (Sunan Abu Dawud)
• “Do not practice treachery or mutilation. Do not uproot or burn palms or cut down fruitful trees. Do not slaughter a sheep or a cow or a camel, except for food.” (Al-Muwatta)
• “If one fights his brother, (he must) avoid striking the face, for God created him in the image of Adam.” (Sahih Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
• “Do not kill the monks in monasteries, and do not kill those sitting in places of worship.” (Musnad Ahmad Ibn Hanbal)
• “Do not destroy the villages and towns, do not spoil the cultivated fields and gardens, and do not slaughter the cattle.” (Sahih Bukhari; Sunan Abu Dawud)
• “Do not wish for an encounter with the enemy. Pray to God to grant you security, but when you (are forced to) encounter them, exercise patience.” (Sahih Muslim)
• “No one may punish with fire except the Lord of Fire.” (Sunan Abu Dawud)
• “Accustom yourselves to do good if people do good, and do not do wrong even if they commit evil.” (Al-Tirmidhi)” http://www.arabnews.com/node/375112



So why hasn't Saudi Arabia spoken out against the current attacks? We have we speak out against it and we're working hard to try to fight it!  here are some links to prove that yes we indeed speak out against these attacks and will never support such hideous crimes.. http://saudigazette.com.sa/world/saudi-arabia-condemn-terrorist-attacks-in-paris/ , http://www.arabnews.com/node/960431/world




Saudi Arabia is also fighting terrorism inside the country this is a recent video of a shoot out between police and 2 terrorists...


I think we can agree on one thing, terrorism is like cancer it has no religion and it doesn't care in who you are and what your race or religion you are it's only mission is to destroy you and the only way to defeat cancer or terrorism is to stand together and fight together and put discrimination aside because as long as we keep pointing fingers in who created what then terrorists win, if you ever meet a Saudi student he or she will tell you that we don't accept this behavior because its "HARAM" (forbidden) and not Islam! 

Why does Saudi Arabia send their people to America? well majority of the saudis you'll ever meet in America or any other country outside Saudi Arabia are students or for business with companies and are some of the most kindest generous people you'll ever meet and are very interested in learning about your culture and life style so do please be hospitable and kind cause the students that come there not only come for education but to better their future when they return to Saudi Arabia and none of them want any trouble their normal people like anyone else so do please be kind....


Okay, how safe is Saudi Arabia for westerners to travel to let alone work?? first of all Americans, people from London or Europe are some of the most respected people in Saudi Arabia majority live in some of the best compounds that is only for them no Saudis are allowed to enter because in those compound areas the people that live there are free to do what they want, from ladies driving inside the compound yes you heard right women can drive in the compounds and also in some small cities in Saudi Arabia anyways, women don't have to wear abaya or hijab in these areas if you went into these compounds you would think you're in one of the beaches of California its that luxurious!

One of the homes in one of the compounds, photo taken by Jessica Fay.
Aramco beach photo taken by Jessica Fay.


A lot of companies that hire Americans get paid tickets to go back home at least once a year or more, they get paid medical, schooling for their kids Saudi Arabia is also tax free so you don't pay taxes but don't forget you still have to pay taxes from what ever country you're coming from... American's and Europeans that come here to work  they're some of the highest paid people in the country an the most respected they get double the salary that a Saudi citizen would get even if they had the same qualifications!




on of the beaches inside the compound. *photo taken by Jessica Fay*

So what is there to do for foreigners  that choose to come to work here? well if you like shopping we have a ridiculous amount of shopping centers here for almost anything you can think of. If you're a foodie we have some of the best restaurants here American restaurants too!!! So how do women get around if women can't drive? well that's easy!! if you're sponsored by a company to work here and if you're a woman you'd be provided with a driver who will drive you to where ever you need to go and also we have car services like *Uber, and Careem* to get you to where you need to go and the old taxi services.


So how safe is Saudi Arabia to live in?? Saudi Arabia is one of the safest countries I know you may laugh, but do you know what the number one cause of death is in Saudi Arabia??? I know you probably thought by suicide bombers right? Wrong! and no its not by murder or violence. The number one cause of death in Saudi Arabia is  Coronary Heart Disease, number two being Stroke!  surprised??? 



TOP 50 CAUSES OF DEATH
Rate
World Rank
1.
Coronary Heart Disease
165.67
27
2.
Stroke
126.77
47
3.
Influenza and Pneumonia
44.89
70
4.
Diabetes Mellitus
35.61
65
5.
Kidney Disease
32.09
6
6.
Road Traffic Accidents
25.33
33
7.
Hypertension
22.36
35
8.
Lung Disease
14.11
125
9.
Inflammatory/Heart
11.00
45
10.
Breast Cancer
9.61
148
11.
Tuberculosis
8.54
77
12.
Liver Disease
7.69
130
13.
Colon-Rectum Cancers
7.21
87
14.
Skin Disease
7.01
20
15.
Lymphomas
6.34
45
16.
Prostate Cancer
6.04
148
17.
Liver Cancer
5.17
91
18.
Endocrine Disorders
5.10
97
19.
Lung Cancers
5.09
127
20.
Congenital Anomalies
4.99
125
21.
Asthma
4.86
83
22.
Low Birth Weight
4.44
117
23.
Fires
4.31
61
24.
Falls
3.16
124
25.
Leukemia
3.06
112
TOP 50 CAUSES OF DEATH
Rate
World Rank
26.
Stomach Cancer
3.06
138
27.
Diarrhoeal diseases
3.02
97
28.
Ovary Cancer
2.68
147
29.
Pancreas Cancer
2.60
101
30.
Other Injuries
2.56
167
31.
Drownings
2.46
106
32.
Other Neoplasms
2.41
99
33.
Malnutrition
2.33
87
34.
Peptic Ulcer Disease
2.17
99
35.
Meningitis
1.98
89
36.
Birth Trauma
1.69
116
37.
Oral Cancer
1.68
138
38.
Bladder Cancer
1.64
103
39.
Oesophagus Cancer
1.57
119
40.
Uterin Cancer
1.49
109
41.
Epilepsy
1.31
117
42.
Alzheimers/Dementia
1.21
144
43.
Cervical Cancer
1.20
168
44.
Poisonings
1.18
90
45.
Rheumatic Heart Disease
1.15
130
46.
Parkinson's Disease
1.13
111
47.
Violence
0.94
152
48.
Hepatitis B
0.87
64
49.
Skin Cancers
0.60
151
50.
Dengue
0.56
24



So as long as you're in good health you really have nothing to worry about, because Saudi Arabia is known for their harsh punishments and for that reason crime rates are verily low, not say they don't happen they do but they don't rank number 1 of cause of death and if anyone was to attack a foreign person let alone an American not only does the embassy get involved the the police will protect you as if you're a VIP because you're a guest in this country and we take care of our guests because this is what Islam teaches us to take care of our neighbors and to protect...

 So do women have to wear the hijab or niqab??? No they don't I had addressed this in another blog but when I first arrived here to Saudi Arabia the first thing that shocked me is the women who didn't cover but were respectfully dressed....
This being example of women wearing what she likes, yes the ladies face is covered because in Saudi Arabia if you take someones picture without their knowledge you can get in big  trouble so in all aspects i'm protecting my ass and also her identity!



So you may ask yourself why would anyone want to visit Saudi Arabia let alone work there? my question for you is why not!!! what is there to fear? you're at higher risk at getting shot by wearing the wrong color in the wrong neighborhood than you are to get attacked here! in fact firearms are not allowed here, even the police and Military are not allowed to use their firearms unless given authorized to do so so yes Saudi Arabia is safe and probably one of the most hospitable countries you'll ever visit and people you'll ever know... an also coming to a different country will open your mind and views about another culture and religion and life style and if you get bored Bahrain and UAE, Kuwait, and Qatar, Oman are near by to feed your needs of drinking or clubbing eating pork and watching movies in the cinema... 


My conclusion is this Saudi Arabia is safe there is no doubt about that but all I can say don't believe everything you hear in the media the media tells you what they want you to know and most of that time they will feed you what they want to put fear and hate into your minds and heart so when you see something ask the people of the countries and the religions the media is attacking and ask with an open mind and open heart and with the intent of wanting to learn and to understand and always keep in mind "the fingers on your hand are not the same they're all different and nether people"!





I end the blog with this video, I hope I was able to answer some questions and misunderstanding about Saudi Arabia 













Sunday, March 19, 2017

Saudi Arabia through American eyes




What is the life like in Saudi Arabia? That is the question I'm always asked, people are always intrigued to hear the experience from an American who's from a more open country even more when the view comes from a woman....  

Why do I do what I do spend hours on debating and trying to change the views of people? is because there is so many good things about Saudi Arabia and the people that no one gets to hear about and that's my mission is to get those good things out there and heard!

Most of the time with people hear the name "Saudi Arabia" automatically people will relate it to 9/11 or they think of women of having no rights because women aren't allowed to drive or barbaric for its harsh punishments for crimes... As many who know me my views were exactly as those who strongly dislike Saudi Arabia for those who'd like to know how my views changed please check my other blog "Why Saudi Arabia http://loveforksa.blogspot.com/2012/10/why-saudi-arabia.html" Many talked before coming here that I would face a major culture shock upon arrival to be honest I've never had any issues with that the culture shock hit when I returned to America....

Now to the questions how is the life in Saudi Arabia, Is it like you hear on the media? and what made me love it so much to willingly want to live there for the rest of my life?

First of all lets address the driving issue....Is it really an issue? yes and no! depends in how you look at it!  it is an issue if your used to driving, is it religiously wrong for us to drive? no!!! so why are women not allowed to drive yet? firstly take for example when women were not allowed to vote in America and how long it took to get the society to get used to the idea to allow women to vote let alone hold an governmental position, its the same for us here in Saudi Arabia!!! an for anyone who's ever lived here knows how dangerous the driving can be at the same time the traffic laws need to be applied  but within time we will drive Saudi Arabia is changing rapidly.... apparent rumors are claiming that women will be allowed to drive next month, how true is this rumor? only time will tell but insha'allah *God Willing* we will and lets face it is driving what makes a woman independent??? I don't think so!!!

this article is in Arabic so if your not arabic speaking google translate may not be your friend but the article talks about women driving next month or possible soon!
http://www.alanba.com.kw/ar/last/729694/16-03-2017-


So another question I'm always asked women are not free to wear what they want their forced to wear the face veil and to cover their hair! I think one of the things that had surprised me the most when I first arrived in Saudi Arabia is the women who were not wearing hijab at all I thought why were they not wearing hijab this is haram!!! Saudi Arabia hosts many foreigners who are Christians or non who we do not force them to wear hijab or ladies to be forced to wear the face veil *niqab* me for myself I never wear it and most who know me knows i'm a huge makeup lover and I get told a lot that if I go out like that in public i'll be flogged lol but no one cares to be honest if you respect yourself the people will respect you regardless of your faith and where you come from but we are expected to dress in our abayas *long black dress* and most don't mind they do it out of respect of the countries customs and respect to our religion..

so what are the rights for women here in Saudi Arabia? can they hold a  job, can they work? can they go to university can they travel without a male guardian let alone open a bank account without a male guardian! and the answer to all those questions is Yes!!!  I've had the honor of working for a few months with a small company with a Saudi lady who traveled with the company without her husband and also I had the opportunity to do so many think "but you're american so its easier for you" not so much!!! I'm married to a Saudi man so I am treated as a Saudi lady!! an I know of many ladies who hold PhD's and those who prefer the life of taking care of the home  in the end its up the lady in what she wants to do with her life...

What is with the male guardianship is it culture or religion? most find it unfair but those who understand it do not find it unfair at all and secondly its Religion not culture! many find it degrading to a woman or unfair but in reality its not its out of respect for the women to protect her.. "why can't a woman protect her self"? yes she can but who knows maybe there will be a situation she will face and will need her husband or brother or father to help her and a lot of ladies...

Another thing I hear a lot is Saudi Arabia is  a mans world country its no place for a woman and she can't do anything.... this is where I said to myself before coming here "Challenge accepted" and to be honest its not if you're going to use the "driving" as a reason why its a male dominated country than this doesn't fly or you may say are women and men treated equal? I would say yes in some aspect especially if its a crime you do a crime you pay the punishment regardless of your gender. as in Jobs? some may find it unfair that women are not allowed to do some jobs but the way I see it the country looks out for the well being of the women here they want to protect the women is how I look at it instead of find it degrading and to be honest I love that aspect about Saudi Arabia is I feel protected and the country truly cares about us and I feel safe...

I feel safe? really as a woman?!! You may laugh at this but really it is that safe here and as many may think because our laws are harsh and yes they are but it makes you think long and hard before you commit a crime...and Yes it is safe I can go to the sea and walk along the beach shore at 2-3 am and no one will bother you I've had to walk to the pharmacy at 10am to buy medication for my daughter who had an ear infection and no problems at all because if someone harasses a woman in this country people are willing to step in to stop it immediately and its punishable by lashes and fines and jail if you harass a woman let if you rape a woman you can say goodbye to your head because that is an execution-able punishment!

One of the most annoying questions I hear is Saudi Arabia has billions and yet they don't take in any refugees or help anyone in need! see this is where I come in many people tell me you're wasting your time trying to show the good things about Saudi but for me if I'm able to change the view of one person than I've done my job! Now has Saudi Arabia taken in any refugees? I'll post a video below and than you can think for yourself! in my neighborhood I have met 4 families who are syrian refugees and one who was a doctor who performed surgery on my son so yes Saudi Arabia has taken in millions of refugee on top of that giving the countries in need millions upon billions of aide from schooling, to medical, and food...


Oome people ask me do you miss anything back home? I'd be lying if I said no! I get homesick mostly during the holiday seasons and birthdays but the answer is yes!! I miss my mother and sisters and family everything else not really I don't miss it at all, I have everything I need here. "Do I miss going to the movies" not really I never really enjoyed paying 50 dollars on snacks at the movie theater an to be honest I really hope they never get a cinema in Saudi Arabia its not something necessary, is Saudi Arabia for everyone? no its not because it is a very conservative country but I love it for everything is and for everything it will become...

Lastly what have been my opinions on living here and why do you love it so much? my views of this country are coming from the heart many may say "oh she's brainwashed" but lets face it if you haven't lived here or never plan to live here than you have no right to speak about a country you don't know about other than what the media feeds you!!  Firstly I find Saudi Arabia to be a family oriented country and the life is a very simple life the hospitality of the natives here is beyond over the top at times but the intentions are pure  one of the things I love is how close the communities are here is their so close as if their family and they respect you and accept you and if you love the Saudis they love you and you're one of them as they say and this is something I agree with 100% I honestly don't know what I'd do without my Saudi community family  as a friend mentioned to me yesterday a quote as I explained in how I felt about the community.. 

"انا على ولد عمي وانا وولد عمي على الغريب"
meaning "I'm against my cousin, and me and my cousin against the stranger"
(if the translation is wrong please help me in changing it 😊 ) 

For the most part I feel safe in this country if I don't wear face veil no one questions me or forces me if I choose to not to wear the head scarf I don't have to  if I need to go somewhere I can just request a ride with Uber *I've never drove or ever had desire to drive* so the no driving has never been an issue its been a phobia so Its the reason why I've never had a licence  and most importantly no one judges you here no one cares if your Muslim, or Christian or non Muslim the people respect you I may struggle in speaking Arabic but you know what I get around lol someone speaks English and if they don't I just try my best to speak in broken Arabic or I just call a friend to translate and the life here is so simple the people are kind an the best part is Makkah and Medina are here regardless if they were here or not I'd gladly still want to live here maybe the life is boring to some because mostly people go to the malls or the beach or the park but many of us we can travel outside the country to Bahrain, or Kuwait,Qatar,U.A.E. to meet our needs of entertainment but over all I love the simple life here and just simplicity is the life I love!


"Love the life you live, live the life you love"